What Is The Purpose Of The DVDs?

The purpose of this project is to provide a moral source of romantic and erotic DVDs for married couples to use, to help them relax and forget about the stress of the day and begin to focus on romance and intimacy with each other.

Why Not Use Rated PG-13, R or X Videos?

If erotic videos can help married couples have increased passion for each other, why shouldn't they just go out and rent a rated R or rated X video?

As Christians we want to lead pure lives.  The Bible teaches that God hates sin and we should hate sin too. 

For example, if a video took immoral conduct to produce, we should not want to watch it because it took sin to produce it.  So if an erotic video has two people having sex who are not married, then it is sinful and we should not want to watch it.

Or, if a video promotes immoral behavior, we should not want to watch it.  Most videos today condone, promote or contain sex before marriage, adultery, homosexuality, or cheating.  Videos that portray immoral sexual activity are sinful and we should hate the sinful conduct and not want to watch them.

The Bible teaches that we should not take God's name in vain.  Most Rated PG-13, R and rated X videos take God's name in vain, and so we should not watch them.

For the reasons above, it is important that Christians produce moral erotic DVDs for married couples.  DVDs that promote marriage, that glorify God, that show marriage love, as pure and wholesome and beautiful and awesome.

 Where Will The Video For The DVDs Come From?

The pictures and video footage for the DVDs will come from various sources.  We are committed to only use video footage that is moral.  By this we mean that if the video footage includes sexual activity, we will make sure the couple was married when the video was taken. 

Will The DVD Show Faces?

Each DVD will be a collage of pictures and video footage.  The parts of the DVD that are not intimate will show faces.  But any part of a DVD that contains nudity will have the faces blurred so that they are not identifiable.  Because the DVD is a collage of pictures and footage, that are seemingly randomly changing, there should be no reason to believe that the persons in the non-sexual part of the DVD are the same persons that are in the intimate part of the DVD.

 How Can We Help With The DVD Project?

In order to produce these moral marriage love stories DVDs, we need married couples to volunteer and donate video footage of their weddings, their anniversaries, their vacations and their love lives.

If you are a married couple who would like to donate old videos or pictures or new video footage or pictures that we can use in our DVDs, please send your pictures and video footage to our address above along with your contact information and a statement signed by both you and your spouse, saying that we can use the pictures and video footage in our DVDs. 

We need video footage of weddings and of beautiful places like honeymoon spots and vacation spots.

Please understand that your video and pictures may end up, over the years, being looked at by millions or even billions of married couples and adults.

Are We Young Enough And Good Looking Enough?

For our marriage love stories DVD's we can use video footage of all ages and all shapes and sizes of married couples.  While we especially can use video of young couples, we can also use video footage of old couples, middle age couples, skinny couples, and overweight couples.

We want this wide range of video content, to help all those who might watch the DVD, identify with the DVD, so that they can feel like it represents them as a married couple.  We will use this wide array of variety of married couples to piece together the collage of video for the marriage love stories. 

For intimate scenes in the romantic and passionate stories,  where the clothes come off, we will insert into the collage of video, footage of attractive relatively young married couples (with their faces blurred), so that the DVD serves it's purpose of increasing passion in the marriages of those who watch it. 

Will You Send The Video And Pictures Back?

If you ask us to send your video and pictures back to you we will mail them back to you. 

If we receive millions of videos, then we may have to reject them, so that they go back to the sender for free, because we do not have millions of dollars for return postage. 

But assuming we receive 100 to 200 videos, yes we will accept them, review them and return them if you ask us to return them to you.  We will return, all the videos that we accept for delivery if in your accompanying letter you request that we return them.

What Video Formats Are You Looking For?

We are especially looking for digital video in DV, 8mm DV, HD, DVD, MP4, AVI, or Windows Media, or Real Audio format.  The digital formats preserve the quality of the video and enable us to more easily produce the DVD.

But we can also use VHS, and S-VHS tapes.  For example, we hope couples will send us some of their wedding videos so we can have beautiful wedding video footage in our DVDs.

If your video footage is on your computer you may email your AVI, MP4 or some other digital video files to us at dvd@marriageromance.com.  We will also need you to send us a release statement, like the one in red above, and contact information, and a picture, so we can verify that you are the couple in the videos we receive by email.

What Kinds Of Scenes Do You Want?

We would like to have video from at least 100 married couples before we produce the first DVDs.  This way we can switch between all 100 of the married couples in order to conceal the identity of married couples in any intimate part of the DVD. 

Here is an idea of some of the scenes we need to produce our marriage love stories DVDs.

•  Wedding scenes with footage of the entrance of the bride, footage of the wedding party and especially groom, footage of the ceremony with the bride and groom, and the wedding and the bride exiting (with rice or confetti showered on them if possible).

• Scenes of the bride and groom in their marriage getaway car or limo going to their honeymoon or wedding night

• Restaurant scenes where the husband and wife are eating together at a nice restaurant

• Beach scenes where the married couple are walking together holding hands or being romantic on a beautiful beach

• Sunset and sunrise scenes with husband and wife in romantic settings holding hands or walking with arms around each other

• Mountain scenes where the married couple are hiking holding hands or being romantic together in the mountains or at a mountain cabin

• Farm, meadow scenes where the married couple are walking together holding hands or doing something romantic in a farm setting

• Scenes of a married couple arriving at a church or going into a church together (not your own church)

• City scenes where the married couple are doing fun things together in the city like walking at the park or shopping together at the grocery store

• Scenes where the married couple arrive at their home together and enter their home in a loving embrace

• Scenes where the married couple are at a famous place such as the Grand Canyon, the Eiffel Tower, Disney Land, The Golden Gate Bridge, Yellowstone Geyser, etc.

• Nice hotel scenes where the couple are entering a nice hotel.

• Scenes where the wife receives roses or flowers from her husband.

• Scenes where the husband and wife are driving around town dressed up like they are going to dinner.

• Scenes where the husband and wife undress in their bedroom or a hotel room after a date. We will blur faces.

• Scenes where the husband and wife dress to go on a date together. We will blur faces.

• Scenes where the husband and wife are sitting together or standing and begin kissing.

• Scenes where the husband and wife go beyond kissing and are caressing each other. We will blur faces.

• Scenes with wide angle shots of husband and wife in bed and of lovemaking in bed.  We will blur faces.

• Scenes with close-ups of the wife's favorite parts of her husband's body. We will blur faces.

• Scenes with close-ups of the husband's favorite parts of his wife's body. We will blur faces.

• Scenes with close-ups of caressing and of lovemaking.    We will blur faces.

• Other video footage that shows romance, love and passion between the husband and wife or that shows beautiful nature spots that are romantic

This will give us a wide variety of video footage to draw from.  Once we have a wide variety of video footage in our video library we can piece together short segments from 100 different married couples and many beautiful places in the world and put together a collage of exciting footage to compliment the reading of the stories and the background music.

Send Your Videos &  Pictures And Info Below To:

MarriageRomance.com
415 Patton Lane
Tyler, Texas 75704

Here is a list of the information we need from you.

• A copy of your marriage certificate.
• A copy of the husband's drivers license.
• A copy of the wife's drivers license.
• A statement saying we have permission to use your video and pictures in our DVDs.

Here is a sample permission statement:

Dear owners of MarriageRomance.com,

My wife and I are sending you the enclosed copy of our wedding video.  We are also sending pictures of our vacation to Cancun.  We are also including a romantic video we made of each other.  The video is on DV tape.  

We understand our video and pictures may, over the years, be watched by millions or even billions of people.  You have our permission to use them in your DVD projects.  

My wife and I agree that you may show our faces in the DVD's you make but that when you are displaying content where we are nude, that you will blur our faces so that we are not identifiable.

We assure you that we are married and that the intimate footage in the DV video and pictures are from while we have been married.

You do not need to send these videos back to us.  The wedding video is a copy and we made the romantic DV video especially for your DVD project.

Our current address is:

Jane & John Doe
2324 StreetName St.
Somewhere, New York, 75704. 

Our phone number is 903 535 9975.

John Doe _____________________   Date ________

Jane Doe _____________________   Date ________

The Need - Long Version

In church sermons I have heard that 80 percent of Christian men struggle with looking at pornography.  I have been told that Christian divorce rates are higher than non-Christian divorce rates.

I remember the great Christian psychologist, Dr. Harold Sala, on his radio show "Guidelines For Living", saying that he wished Christians would recognize that we are sexual beings as well as physical and spiritual beings. 

In 1 Corinthians 7 3-5 Paul says, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

The warning Paul gives to married couples is that they should not withhold sex from each other and that they should have sex regularly so that their spouse does not get tempted. The implication is that the couple should enjoy sex with each other, not just mechanically give sex. This is because sexual needs are not just physical but emotional. Emotional sexual needs involve making your spouse feel sexually desired and loved and appreciated.

Today at church we listened to a sermon on marriage intimacy.  Our minister told us he once had a friend who said, "If only my wife had been meeting my sexual needs, I would not have been unfaithful to her." The preacher proclaimed that his friend had no Biblical grounds to say that.  The preacher never mentioned the verses in I Corinthians 7 3-5, where Paul makes it clear that withholding sex causes your spouse to be tempted.

I have heard dozens of sermons on porn and on marriage sexual matters and not once have I heard a Pastor mention the only verses in the Bible that instruct married couples in this area of intimacy.  The only verses in the Bible related to marriage intimacy are those same verses in I Corinthians 7 3-5, where Paul instructs married couples to have sex regularly and not withhold sex from each other, so their spouse will not be tempted.  It is no wonder that at a Christian marriage conference my wife and I attended, the speaker told us that 75 percent of Evangelical married men masturbate regularly due to sexual synchronization problems with their wife. 

We also listened to the testimony of a married couple.  During the testimony, the wife said she hated her husband because of something he had done.  It appeared he had looked at pornography.  The husband explained that God restored their marriage when he repented of his sin.  Only after he repented of his apparent sin, did his wife begin loving him again.  Never in the interview, or in the sermon, was it mentioned that the wife's  feelings of hatred towards her husband were wrong and not based on a Biblical justification. 

In reality, are Pastors indirectly teaching wives to hate and even divorce their husbands if their husband looks at porn?   Are they teaching that looking at a picture is adultery in the mind?  If so isn't this the only area in Christianity where we judge a persons thoughts?

The problem is that wives take the Pastors sermons seriously and so they find it very difficult to forgive their husband for adultery when the Pastor says their husband has committed adultery. 

In Matthew 5:28, when Jesus said, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart,"  Jesus was actually combining the 7th and the 10th commandments when he pointed out that "lusting" or "coveting" a woman is actually committing adultery. 

The 7th commandment (Exodus 20:14) says "You shall not commit adultery. "  And the 10th commandment, Exodus 20:17 says, "You shall not covet your neighbor's house. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."

Jesus was pointing out that "coveting" a woman is a form of adultery. 

The Hebrew word “chamad”, in the 10th commandment  which we translate as "covet", is very similar to the Greek word "epithumeo", which we translate as "lust".

The Hebrew word for “covet” in Exodus 20:17 is the transliterated word “chamad” which can mean, “to desire, covet, take pleasure in, delight in.”

The Greek word for "lust" in Matthew 5:28 is the transliterated word, “epithumeo” which can mean, “to covet things forbidden, to desire earnestly; to have a longing desire for.”

And in Galatians 5:17, Paul also uses the same word "epithumeo" for "desires", when he says, "For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh; for these are opposed to each other, to prevent you from doing what you would. " 

"Desiring" or "lusting after" food, sports, TV,  vacations, new homes, or any other thing that satisfies the flesh falls into this same category as "lust" or "coveting".  This goes along with the 10th commandment (Exodus 20:17) which says coveting anything that does not belong to you is wrong.

In Colossians 3:5 the apostle Paul directs us to "put to death" our fleshly desires, including "covetousness, which is idolatry", which we know is spiritual adultery.

In Biblical usage, "lusting" and "coveting" are the same.  They are both wanting something that is now yours.  And yet we do not hate and divorce our spouse if he or she wants a new car or a new home or new clothes. 

In our culture, we certainly do not hate and divorce our spouse if they look at a new home, new car or new clothes.  And yet if a man looks at a picture of a woman we call him an adulterer, even though we do not know if he "lusted" after the woman or "coveted" her.

In this same Sermon On The Mount, in Matthew 5: 21-22, Jesus said, "You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, 'Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.'  But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.  Again, anyone who says to his brother, 'Raca,' is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, 'You fool!' will be in danger of the fire of hell."

Jesus never intended his statement on "lust" in Matthew 5:28, to cause millions of divorces in Christian marriages, any more than he intended his statement on "murder" in Matthew 5: 21-22 to be used to send someone to the electric chair for having been angry.

Christian wives are not taught by Pastors to have sex regularly.  This, according to the apostle Paul, leaves their husbands vulnerable to temptation.  Why do Pastors not teach this Biblical truth to married couples?

Another Biblical truth is that the "marriage bed is undefiled."  It is not sin to be creative in the marriage bed and use moral erotic aids to help keep romance alive, fun and exciting.

Edmund Burke once said, “All that's necessary for the forces of evil to win in the world is for enough good men to do nothing.”

The world has recognized for some time, that at times married couples need a little spice in their marriage.  And so the porn video and rated R movie industry has developed to meet this need.

Consequently, rated PG-13, Rated R and Rated X videos are part of our western culture.

It is now time for we as Christians to go back to the Bible and come up with solutions to help marriages with sexual problems.  Solutions that do not solely spiritualize the sexual issues in marriage.

While the spiritual aspects in marriage are very important, we can not ignore the scriptures where Paul gives Christian married couples very clear instructions in 1 Corinthians 7 3-5 to have sex regularly, as well as other scriptures that encourage married couples to enjoy sex.

For husbands and  wives, sex can be such an emotional issue.  How can a married couple enjoy sex regularly when they have arguments regularly?  Especially when their arguments are about what is permissible in this area of sex?  As Christian leaders we need to teach mercy and compromise in this area of intimacy.  We need to teach married couples that the "marriage bed is undefiled."  We need to refrain from teaching man made traditions that cause arguments in the bedroom.

We believe that once these moral marriage love stories on DVD are available, and once church leaders recognize them as a pure resource for married couples, we believe Christian divorce rates could be cut in half and that most Christian married men will gladly trade their temptation to look at porn, for a night with their spouse watching a passionate marriage love stories DVD.