Question: Can you tell me more about MarriageRomance.com?

Answer:  MarriageRomance.com is a place where married couples anonymously write and read marriage romance love stories and poems and other writings. We have nine categories of writings that range from prayer requests to marriage love stories.

All writings submitted to the website are positive about marriage, and have moral content, and they do not contain profanity or demeaning sexual slang words.

Question:   Are submitted writings, screened for content, before publishing?

Answer:  Yes each writing submitted is screened to assure it does not conflict with Biblical teachings. 

Writings that do not contain sexual activity more than kissing and holding hands are rated heartwarming and have a pink heart beside them.

Writings about a couple dating (before marriage), should limit sexual activity to kissing and holding hands, so they are moral.  Singles may write stories containing fantasies  about what it will be like when they get married.

Writings about a married couple that contain intimate sexual activity are considered "intimate" writings and are rated romantic, passionate, exotic or risqué. 

We ask that intimate writings be submitted anonymously to help prevent embarrassment, jealously and lust.    Click here to read more about intimate writings.

Writings should be positive about marriage, they should not contain profanity, they should not be contrary to Biblical teachings, and they should only contain moral sexual activity.

We define moral sex, as sex that is condoned in the Bible - sex between a husband and wife.

To help define moral sexual activity, we look to Christian marriage authors such as Tim LaHaye, Dr. Ed Wheat, Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner, Linda Dillow, Lorraine Pintus, Tommy Nelson, and others.

Based on the Bible and Christian authors on marriage we feel moral "sexual activity" falls within the following guidelines. 

We know everyone will not agree with all the rules but we hope our love for each other through Christ will  help us overlook our differences.  With that introduction, here are the guidelines for writing stories with sexual content.

• It is very important that the stories say whether they are true or fiction.  Please be honest and mention at the beginning or end of your story whether it is true or made up.
   

• We recommend that stories be written by the husband and wife together, as a fun activity together. 
  
  If this is not possible then we suggest that the spouse who writes the story, read the story to their spouse and make sure their spouse approves of any sexual activity in the story, before they submit the writing.  This will help solo writers to not submit risqué circumstances from their imagination that their spouse would not approve of.
  
  We recommend that married couples save their sexual energy for when they are together.  And so we don't want this web site to be just another solo outlet for a married person. 
  
  However if a married person is sure their spouse would approve of the sexual activity in the story then they don't need to get their spouse's approval. 
  
  Or if they want to surprise their spouse and show the story to their spouse after it is published that is fine too. 
  
  Or if they want to surprise their spouse and get their spouse to try and pick their writing out from other writings on the site after it is published, that is fine too.   
   

• Generally, except as mentioned below, only sex between a husband and wife is permitted in stories.
   

• Please try to use words that are not offensive to married couples.  A list of blocked and substituted words may be found on the "Submit A Writing" page.
   

• Stories should not contain sex in public.  By this we mean sex where the public can see the couple or where there is fair chance that someone might come along and see them.  If the couple is on a secluded beach or in their private back yard or some place where there is only a remote chance that someone might come along and if someone did come along they could cover up,  then it is ok. 
   

• Stories should not contain sexual activity alone such as masturbation unless their spouse has asked or encouraged he or she to do it.
   

• Here are the spanking rules.  The Bible does not teach that the husband and wife should punish each other.  The marriage relationship is one of love not of parent/child. So, husbands and wives may not spank each other for disciplinary reasons.  In a story the husband or wife may ask their spouse to spank them because they say it turns them on to be spanked.  In that case the spouse may spank them.   Parents may spank their own children.  It should not turn the parent on to spank their child.  If this is happening this is child abuse.  Parents should not spank anyone else's child.  The proper way to discipline someone else's child is to tell their parents what they did wrong. 
   

• There is another idea about sex that we need to understand. Why is it wrong when men expose themselves in public? Why it is wrong to be a Peeping Tom? The reason is, it is wrong to derive sexual pleasure from anyone without his or her permission. This is an extension of loving your neighbor. If you love your neighbor you will not derive sexual pleasure from them, without their permission.

  This is the reason our rules for stories require that couples not be seen or heard in public when they are being intimate.
  
  The flip-side of this is that in our society it has been accepted that it is ok to derive sexual excitement from other people, as long as they have given their permission.

  For example married couples who submit stories should understand that other married couples may  read the stories and become sexually excited when reading them – and this actually will be helping the married couples, because God wants married couples to enjoy sex.

  The writer of Song Of Solomon and God surely were aware that this book would over the ages be read by married couples and would be used to increase passion in marriages.

  Another observation which factors into this idea of deriving sexual pleasure from someone who is not your spouse is this.  Some married persons, especially men, sometimes get turned on when their spouse becomes sexually aroused by someone else.

  The erotic stories on this site are an example of this.  For example as a rule, men do not get as aroused when reading the stories as women do.  But men do get turned on when their wife reads a story that turns her on. 

  Approval and agreement and permission within the marriage is the key to whether sexual activity is right or wrong.  The apostle Paul teaches that our bodies are not only our own, but they also belong to our spouse.  And so when we do anything sexual, it is best if we are with our spouse, but if we are not with our spouse the activity needs to be with our spouses permission and for the benefit of our marriage.  By solo we mean when a spouse is alone. 

• The couple in a story should not be involved in immoral activity such as watching a movie or video that promotes or condones sex before marriage or sex outside of Biblical boundaries.  Stories can be about watching or reading moral erotic stories and videos.  Sinclair Institute sex education and better sex videos, while not certified as moral, are the closest thing to moral erotic videos on the market today, and so they can be mentioned in stories.
   

• Oral sex is permitted  in stories as we believe God allows a married couple to caress each other and stimulate each other with different ways, as a way to add spice and variety to the marriage. 
  
  We believe it is perfectly natural for a husband and wife to desire to explore each others bodies.  We believe that normally married couples enjoy sex the most when the penis penetrates the vagina, but it is not sinful for a husband and wife to use their fingers or a vibrator or  their tongue to help stimulate each other.  Click here for more on oral sex. 
  
  Medical Alert: However we warn couples that there is more and more evidence from medical studies that directly links both male and female oral sex to neck and face cancers.  More specifically, many medical studies have recently proven a link between oral sex and an increased incidence of squamous cell carcinoma of the tonsils and throat which metastasizes to the neck lymph nodes.  So we encourage married couples to prayerfully consider what is "profitable" for the long term of their marriage before they engage in regular oral sex.
  
  Medical Alert:  If you and your spouse do occasionally kiss each other in the genital area, please realize that you should not kiss the genital area if you have a "fever blister" ,  "cold sore" or "night fever blister".  Because these mouth sores which are Herpes Simplex Virus 1 are very contagious and if one of them comes in contact with the genital area of the spouse while it is blistering and even up to 10 days after the blister has healed, the blister can cause a Herpes Simplex Virus 2 infection in the genital area of the spouse  Click here for more information in this medical alert.
   

• We feel anal sex is not healthy and so it should not be in stories.    The following passage from "The Act of Marriage After 40" explains our position.

  "While we're on the subject, there is one sexual act that we do not favor; anal intercourse.  We don't believe God made our bodies for that practice, and the anus doesn't serve a sexual purpose for the body.  That act (known as sodomy) is highly dangerous for both partners.  Once inside the anus, the penis can become contaminated with disease-producing organisms, thus causing danger to the man's reproductive and urinary structures.  "

  "Anal intercourse should be avoided for physical reasons," writes Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner.

  It's just not wise!  If the man enters the woman's anus and then her vagina, he then contaminates her reproductive tracts and sometimes her urinary tract since it is so close to her vagina. 

  When the man's penis enters the woman's anus, the stretching often causes the blood vessels in her rectum to burst, which makes both her and her husband vulnerable to infection.

  Obviously God did not design the anus for sexual intercourse."

  End of quote

• Sexual aids are ok as long as they could not possibly harm the body or symbolize harm or belittlement to the spouse.
   

• In the past we have had several stories submitted where the husband or wife tied each other up with a ribbon or silk.  In the past we have cut those parts out of the stories. 
  
  But in the spirit of not being legalistic, we are now going to allow stories where the husband or wife tie their spouse with something that is not strong such as ribbon or silk, as long as it is clear the spouse wanted to be tied up, and it is clear the spouse would free the tied spouse as soon as requested, or it is clear the tied up spouse could free himself or herself if they wanted to. 
   

• What about fantasies?  Many times a husband and wife will make up and tell each other a fantasy story while making love in order to help each other get turned on.  Is that sinful?  No, fantasies are not sinful as long as they are moral by Biblical standards.

  • What is the Biblical basis for allowing fantasies on this web site? 

    • First fantasies do help the married couples who read them get sexually aroused for their spouse. 

    • Second the Bible is very permissive in the area of sex within marriage when a husband and wife are in agreement about the sexual activity. 

      • Can we all agree that marriage is defined as the union of one man with one woman.  Any sex outside of this union is defined as "sex outside of marriage".

      • As you may know God condoned King David having hundreds of wives.  Each wife after the first wife, is considered "sex outside of marriage". 

      • As you may know Sarah gave her husband Abraham permission to have sex with her maid Hagar.  And Abraham gave his wife Sarah permission to have sex with the Kings of Egypt. 

      • God allowed "sex outside of marriage" in the Bible as long as it was not stealing someone else's spouse and as long as it was not sex with a virgin. 

      • So even though we oppose sex outside of marriage in real life, we do allow it in fantasy stories as long as the husband and wife give each other permission to fantasize. 

  • So can a husband tell his wife a fantasy story about her having sexual interaction with another man?  Yes, if in the fantasy the man is single or has the permission from his wife, the husband may make up a fantasy about his wife in order to help increase passion in the marriage bed.

  • Can a wife make up a fantasy about her having sex with another man?  Yes, if in the fantasy her husband gives her permission to make up the story and as long as the other man in the fantasy is single or in the fantasy has permission from his wife.

  • Is it wrong to fantasize about homosexual relations?  Yes it is wrong to fantasize about anything that is immoral.  The only reason it is not wrong to fantasize about sex outside of marriage, is when in the fantasy your spouse gives you permission to have the sex and if the other person is married, their spouse also gives permission for the sexual interaction.  But God is the one who says homosexual conduct is sinful so there is no way to get permission to do that.

• We encourage stories that develop the romance and excitement and emotional love that the couple have for each other, and only mildly describe the passionate sexual side.
   

• Writings may mention nationality and race, however  try not to compare races or nationalities or paint attributes of one race or nationality as superior.  
   

• Writings may describe physical attributes of yourself and your spouse and describe sensations and experiences together.