help i dont get it

We had a baby 2 months ago and now we are not making love the way we use to.  

I can't help it but sometimes I get mad because she is not showing me any attention.  Either she's not in the mood or she is to tired.  What should I do to spice it up?

Editor's Note:

It's not your fault.  After my wife had our babies she was the same way.  The mother is focused on the baby and does not think much about sex.

The most important thing you can do is to make her feel loved and appreciated and honored.  Try not to show any frustration with her.  Compliment her often and offer to help her.  

Make sure you hold your baby child a lot so she can see you love your baby too.  Also you can pray with your wife and the baby and be thankful to God for them in your prayers.  This will help your wife to know you love her.

Explain to her that you want to really feel close to her and that when you make love with her, it makes you really feel close to her.

If that does not help, then try picking out some mild and medium writings from marriageromance.com.  At night see if she would like to listen to them or read them to you.  Read the mild ones first.  Explain to her that you picked them out especially for her because you think of her when you read them.

If the mild writings do not help her get in the mood, see if she would like to read a few of the medium writings.

Most likely they will help her get into a romantic mood with you.

God Bless!

Comments From Readers

A reader says ... this really hit home,my husband and i have been married for 27 years,recently he went to a mental institution 4 times since aug 2004,he says i am needless to say a -----,we went to a pastor for couseling,he came out the same down on me or himself, it has been this way our whole marriage,he says he loves me one minuteand hates me the next,up and down roller coaster on my feelings, he is not affectionate towards me and i have tryed alot of things,he recently went back to his first wife for 2 weeks wa not really happy but said she did treat him better than i did, bor did that hurt,i have not problem with my sensuality,what about his? help me jesus for you are the only one who can.  

A reader says ... Weve been married for almost 4 years but after 3 years, I found out He's in loved with other girl and its very sad and hurt me so much because the girl is 4 months pregnant now.  My husband told me that He love me so much and one can replace me in his heart.  But right now the girl need more attention.  My husband told me that if He can spend more time to his girl and I am the wife need to understand him...please advise me what do I need to do... do I need to tolerate just because I love my husband...PLEASE HELP ME!! THANKS AND GOD BLESS

A reader says ... My husband just confessed he thought he loved me but after 6 months of marriage found out he didn't love me. He said I was the best wife and mother but not his greatest love. I’m not ugly I’m a model but he said, “No one can tell your heart who to love”.

The truth didn’t hurt me, but the lie did; “That he said he loved me for four years of our marriage.”  I tried to be the best wife; romantic and honest the best mother. He always moved away always tried to avoid me.