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my voice is small
I'm in my twenties. I've been happily married for almost 4 years now. My husband and I have been having a problem lately.
We need to spice things up so that we can enjoy each other once again. All the reading in the world has not helped. We love each other so much, but there is this cloud.
We enjoy each others company, but being together in the bed isn't what it used to be.
When we figure out how to solve our problem, we can finish our "story".
Editors Note:
Did you try listening to the writings together in bed with the lights out, while caressing each other? The web site is designed so you may select several writings and they will all play consecutively without you having to go back to the computer in-between the stories. Reading the writings together may be too distracting and defeat the purpose of the romance so we have provided the writings in audio format too to help the couple focus on each other. This way the couple can listen to the writings or tune them out and talk and focus on each other. We also sell a 25 foot PC speaker plug extension so you may put your PC speakers between your pillows on your bed, and turn down the speaker volume so that only you and your spouse hear the stories and your kids or other people in the next room can not hear the stories.
Please consider reading "His Needs, Her Needs" together. If your problems are due to love busters or low love bank levels, this book will be a lifesaver for you.
Someone once said, "Without a vision the people will perish." It's not enough to just live; we need a reason to live. God has made us with a God shaped vacuum that only he can fill. As husband and wife we have physical lovers. But God is the lover of our souls. He wants us to love him and we will never be truly happy until we do. Once we discover that our purpose here on earth is to love and be thankful to God, and to love and help others, and tell others about Jesus, life becomes fulfilling.
I can personally testify that a personal relationship with Christ and knowing why I am here on earth and having purpose in my life encourages me every day. Every day is a new opportunity to glorify God by being thankful for all he has given me, by serving my wife and family and others, and by trying to tell others about Jesus.
As you decide together as a couple what your purpose in life is, and as a team focus on fulfilling that goal together you will be excited to be together. Your goal as a couple does not have to be an ambitious goal by the world’s standards. As long as you know that it pleases God and will be fulfilling for each of you, this will help you both be happy. Of course you each will have different parts to play in fulfilling your life's ambition as a couple. It's a noble goal and actually an ambitious goal in these days to successfully raise a family that loves each other and loves God.
Also, if something is bothering a husband or wife it can cause one or both of them to loose interest in intimacy. Try and discuss together if there is any stress or issues in your life that would cause either of you to worry or have bitterness towards anyone or each other. Try and get the big issues in life in focus and on track with what God wants. Remember that the newness of the honeymoon wears off eventually but a strong love for each other can replace it and be far better than the initial puppy love.
Also if you have been watching X rated or R rated movies with sexual activity or reading porn stories then sex and our stories may not be very exciting for you. If that is the case, commit to each other to not read or watch any sexually oriented material ever again.
Instead commit to reading the Bible together, praying and going to a Bible believing and teaching church. Then after the two months try reading a medium or hot story together in bed.
You are right that this site does not solve all the many problems that can end up influencing a couple’s intimate life. We just hope that in some small way the site blessed you and your husband. And we have been blessed by your participation and writing.
I really hope you read “His Needs, Her Need”, by Dr. Harley. The book will help you and your spouse see how you may have been falling short of meeting each other’s needs. It is truly an amazing book! It sets a standard that you can measure yourself against in meeting your spouses needs. You will both be so blessed by it!
God Bless
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