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no love lost
Our Heavenly Father created sex. He created us, as human beings, male and female. It is important for us, as married Christian women, to understand the freedom that God has allowed us in marriage, as it relates to the act of sex and intimacy.
I was sexually involved with my husband, as well as two other men, before I was married. When I became married, sex was great for me, but Satan tried to attack me with feelings of great guilt, that it was wrong for me to enjoy a sexual relationship with my husband at this point.
I believe many married women have and do silently deal with these sorts of feelings. Our society glorifies sex outside of marriage, as if there's something wrong with those who don't indulge. But, there are not too many places married men or women can feel free to discuss the importance of sexual intimacy between married couples. Because of this, sex which God created for reproduction and intimacy between husband and wife has been turned into a perversion that married people are ashamed to share with one another. This is not right!!! This is totally backwards and insane!!!
Sex is a wonderful experience to be enjoyed by married couples! There is nothing shameful, embarrassing, degrading, weird, strange or dysfunctional about a strong sexual appetite between husband and wife. We, as married women, must break through the silence and begin to help one another understand the importance of this. If not we leave ourselves and our daughters uneducated, vulnerable and confused about what God intended for his glory.
There are times in our lives when sex, in the sense of a male penetrating a female's vagina with his penis, will not be physically possible. At these times it is wise for us to have a backup plan to insure that the husband's and wife's sexual desires are met. Oral sex, sex toys, and body massage are wonderful alternatives (to name a few) that are in no way sinful or embarrassing. Open communication is the key to introducing these things, as well as others, to your partner for a wonderful and enjoyable sex life.
We, as married women, owe it to ourselves and our future generations of females to be open and honest about sex. We think it's a sin to discuss it, but the sin is in keeping silent and allowing the images from mass media to pervert the minds of our families with the wrong information.
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