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Faith, I am loosing it.
I have lost many close people in my life. My faith is at its all time low. Not knowing what direction to turn to anymore or what to expect each day. I am caught in vicious circle and can't seem to get out. My kids and I pray everyday for the return of their mom. It has been almost six months since she left. She says she no longer loves me the way she once did. I know we can have it all back. I have placed all my faith in God, in return the only thing I have worth living for are my kids. I am grateful to be alive. By any means I do not place any blame on Him, I just don't feel the faith I had in Him as I once did.
My kids ask me why do they pray for mommy to come home if she is not coming back. I really don't know what to say. When they ask for her, I tell them to pray. Everyone always says things happen for a reason and good will come from bad. What good can come from any of this? My kids no longer have a mom? Only when she feels like seeing them. To me a partner can always be replaced and make your life happy. To children their parents can never be replaced; and can they really ever be happy? I don't think so.
I have witnessed divorce so many times and to this date I have not seen one kid say they are happy. Their parents have been divorced over ten years and they still wish they could have it all back. I don't know what to do. I am still in love with my wife. I would love for her to come home and try to work this marriage out. I am not ready to move on. Please advise.
What can I say to my kids to make them feel better? I am not sure that my wife is coming back. My faith is gone; I do not see a reason to pray anymore. I only do it because of my kids. I wish my wife would see what we could have. She has taken a different path. Are these the miracles that one gets for trying to be good? Why do kids have to suffer? Why does God allow this to happen?
My main concern is about the kids. All kids. They do not deserve to live their life with just one parent. Mostly with out their mom. Kids are always the innocent victims of the stupid choices we make. For the sake of our own happiness we have to sacrifice our kids and make their lives miserable. What ever happened to what they need and want? Can anyone please advise? I love my kids and I appreciate every minute I get to spend with them. I look forward to it everyday. I feel like I am a great father and I would not give them up for the world. I only wish they could have their mom to watch them grow up.
Please advise
Editors Note:
I know you have been through much pain. And you are right, divorce is a horrible thing that hurts kids especially. Please realize that God allows people to make decisions. The Bible teaches that “we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers of spiritual wickedness in high places”.
The Bible teaches that God does not tempt people. And it is temptation that leads to sin. The truth is, that there is a spiritual war going on for the hearts and minds of people. God wants people to turn to Him and make good decisions in life and the devil wants people to destroy themselves and turn away from God.
Your wife has made this decision to leave her family. God did not make her make the decision. 80 percent of people that get divorced and remarried, eventually wish they had stayed married to their first spouse.
God can answer prayers. And God can turn bad into good. Focus your eyes on Jesus, on being thankful for the time you did have with your wife and being thankful for your kids and for your job and your home. Forgive your wife and tell her she is welcome to come home when she is ready. Be like the father of the prodigal son and be waiting and rejoice when your wife comes home.
If you truly want things to work out with your wife, continue to pray and ask God but be happy even before she comes home. You don't need to be happy because she is not home, but rather you should be happy because you are serving God with your life and you are living a life that God is pleased with and you are being a good Dad to your children.
The key is to be thankful to God and offer to serve God with what you have. Walk close to God and be a happy Dad to your kids and you might be surprised. Your wife may like your upbeat spirit and positive optimistic outlook on life and she may be drawn to you like a magnet. Focus on serving God and working towards your own and your children's healthy physical, mental and emotional well being.
Attend church regularly, find somewhere you and your children can serve God together in some ministry, and focus on having fun with your children.
God wants us to relax and enjoy life, no matter in what circumstance we are in. If you will trust God with your life and continue living it for Him and for your kids and focus on living a pure life that God is pleased with and trying to minister to others when you can and forgive your wife and let her know you love her and have open arms for her, I believe God will eventually bring her back.
On the other hand I recommend you read “Love Must Be Tough” by Dr. Dobson. This book will help you know what the best direction for your life should be, as far as your wife is concerned.
I hope others will submit some advice too. I'm not an expert and know that others may have much more wisdom than I do.
May God Bless you and your kids and I pray your wife will come back soon.
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