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Virginity
I'm writing to encourage those who are virgins. Obviously, these days, many or most adult singles are not virgins. Those who are not may well be among the visitors to this part of the website, and some may be carrying regret or feeling guilt about it. That can be difficult, and I do not want to make anyone feel bad. I just want to encourage those who are still virgins.
I am glad for you. Please stay on the right track as long as you are single.
Our world today regards virgins, especially the older they get, and especially guys, as weirdos, as stranger-than-fiction. What a shame---that people trying to live with sexual integrity would be made to feel like they're wrong and strange. It's a fallen world.
However intimidating the assault becomes sometimes, DO NOT buy that message. YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING. Yes, it is so difficult at times; yes, you may hate it at times and be tempted to give up and give in; yes, your normal and unsatisfied hunger for intimacy with another may have you feeling angry or depressed in lonely moments. But virginity remains, for the not-as-yet-married, the right thing, and---believe it or not---the good thing. Hard to believe, but it's so. The God who made us and who created the wonder of sex does have a specific plan and context for it. I'm sure you know this; I'm just trying to urge you on in the right, just as I need to remind myself of it.
You know this, too: that violating His good plan is wrong in His sight and also has serious consequences (however these may be denied by people). One more thing you know, I bet, is that (and this is the positive side) if you come to marriage as a virgin, you have such freedom, and such a great experience to share with the one who is committed to you. That is really wonderful, and worth the suffering that remaining a virgin can include for many. Perhaps, if you're a little older, you are afraid you won't ever experience that. Well, that may be so, and then again, you might be surprised. But whatever happens, please--please--stay with what's right. It is the way of freedom.
If you are a virgin, you are not alone, though you might wonder at times. There are actually lots of us, probably all quietly wondering the same thing. Some of us will probably meet each other, and marry! But until that possible dream-come-true, be a warrior, in dependence upon God, for purity.
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