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Marriage Thermometer
Sex in our marriage is like a thermometer indicating the health of our marriage relationship.
If things are good in the bedroom, our whole marriage relationship is harmonious.
And yet my desire to have sex is so dependent on my emotions. Sex is such an emotional event and I can shut my spouse out of this wonderful part of our marriage by just a single minor event.
What really upsets me is if my spouse gets angry with the kids. Everything can be great but if my spouse snaps at the kids or treats one of them unfairly; the evening is ruined.
And yet I know the Bible teaches clearly that I'm not supposed to withhold sex from my spouse.
And yet unintentionally or subconsciously, I use sex as a weapon to punish and manipulate my spouse.
I had been searching for a way that I could obey the Bible and not let my feelings interfere with my relationship with my spouse. I recognized that we have a similar situation with our relationship with God. We want to maintain a close relationship with God regardless of our emotional state.
I realized one way I get encouraged about my relationship with God is to talk to Him and ask Him for forgiveness. So I decided that the next time my spouse upset me, I would go and ask my spouse to forgive me for being upset and not wanting to be intimate because of what they had done.
Another way that I get encouraged in my relationship with God is when I go to church and hear the Pastor or others talk about their relationship with God. Intimacy with God is something we talk about freely; whereas intimacy with our spouse is not something we talk about freely with others.
This is why MarriageRomance.com is such a blessing to my marriage. When I need encouragement in my relationship with my spouse, I take the time to listen to some marriage romance writings. Once I listen to some of the stories and poems and other writings I begin to appreciate my spouse and think of my spouse in romantic ways instead of being angry with my spouse.
I have found that I can obey the Bible and not let sex become a tool to punish and manipulate my spouse with, by first recognizing this is happening, then asking my spouse to forgive me, and then listening to MarriageRomance.com writings to help change my emotions. Sometimes my spouse will listen with me. This is especially romantic and many times leads to a memorable occasion.
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