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waiting on men
No, this isn't about waiting on a man "hand and foot", like a servant. It's about waiting on his initial approach toward you.
Okay, here's the plan, as I understand it. Men initiate; women respond.
Men pursue; women make the chase interesting, and worthwhile. Sounds good, when it works.
Your eyes meet his. There's a spark; you know it. Time goes by. Your eyes keep meeting, but that's all. Time goes by. What happened, or didn't happen? This kind of episode has the potential to drive a woman crazy. It is difficult to wait and wonder, and wait some more for his initiative. Some women even decide to take the initiative themselves. If there seems to be attraction, why isn't there action? Were you just mistaken? Or is it his problem? Where's the man in this situation?
It may help to keep in mind that there are a number of possible reasons why he's not in gear, which may or may not have anything to do with you.
*his confidence may have been shaken in another area of life
*he might be trying to get distance on a recent relationship
*he might be at a transition point of some sort and realize it would be unwise to involve another person right now
*he might be sorting through important spiritual issues and needs to go it alone, or he might be waiting on direction from God for something
*it's possible, depending on his personality, that, though attracted to you, he's also somewhat intimidated by you--your looks, your abilities, your personality, your background--and his ambivalence has him hamstrung
*he might also be considering another woman and hasn't decided
These are only some of the possible reasons. There are others that may apply more accurately in your situation. What we do know is that if you're waiting on a particular man who has shown interest, then there are things you both need. You need patience for now; if nothing ends up happening, then you'll need the resilience and perspective to move on. And he---well, we don't know what he needs, but God does.
If you are a Christian and believe he is, too, then pray for him. Now, this is not to say that God will quickly then fetch the man for you. Be careful not to presume on God, or be impatient.
But prayer support just might turn out to be a means in this situation of resolving matters for the man in question. Again, there is no guarantee. You can at least rest in giving it all to God for His will to be done, and in caring for the man by praying for him.
Waiting is tough, but it's feminine. Sometimes it's rewarded, too.
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