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dating creativity
Not all singles are dating, of course, but some are. Others will later.
Whether one dates various people or takes the more focused "courtship" approach, the basic idea, obviously, is spending time with the other person.
Time together is a great opportunity, not just to enjoy the other person but to learn more about him or her in the process and strengthen the bond if the relationship is headed toward marriage. How time is spent on a date can contribute to these ends.
Gentlemen, as John Gray (of "Mars and Venus" fame) says in one of his books, "Women love a man with a plan." One thing you can do for her is to plan your dates. That doesn't mean you have to hold to a rigid and detailed schedule; that could take the fun right out. It does mean that you have an idea ahead of time and think it through. You show respect for her in doing so.
In addition to having a plan, you could do something else for her by making it an interesting one. If you're going to spend some time together, how about making it different and maybe surprising? Take it beyond the ever-common "dinner and a movie." Now, doing something different does need to take her feminine self into consideration. I would think that "Monster Truck Smasheroo" or women's mud wrestling would probably be out. There are lots of simple but non-typical dates which would give you each the chance to see the other from a new angle. You could try something that would be educational, or something involving serving others, or something offbeat for fun.
There are books that have collected specific date ideas to help you if you're going blank. Sure, you might take a little risk trying something unconventional, but she'll likely respect you for doing so (as long as it's not plain weird or unbelievably boring), and it might turn out to be a great, even meaningful experience. And not just the time together becomes more interesting; you, too, become more interesting for having cared enough to break out of the predictable-date mold. Use your imagination, or find an idea book, but try it!
P.S. If you marry the woman, don't stop being creative at that point!
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