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Coaching Log 11/20/2005
Marital Status: Married
Gender: Female
Your Age: 26
Age Of Your Spouse: 36
Would you like to learn how to become a Christian?
Is your spouse a Christian? No
How many times a month do you go to church? 0
How many years have you been married? 2.
Do you have children? Yes.
How many children living at home? 2.
Is your spouse unfair to you? Yes.
Are you unfair to your spouse? No.
Does your spouse think you are unfair to them? No.
Do you feel angry with your spouse? Yes
Do you feel your spouse is angry with you? No
What percent of your time together with your spouse is spent arguing?
30 percent
Do you like being married? Yes
Do you wish you were single again? No
Do you want to stay married? Yes
Would you ever divorce your spouse? Yes
Would your spouse ever divorce you? I Don't Know
MarriageRomance.com may publish all or parts of this coaching session: Yes
Please describe your situation and problem:
My husband spends alot of time online. I found out he has a new e-mail address that he hides from me. 6 months ago I cought him online paying for e-mails from porn girls and he told me it wouldn't happen again. So far so good. But know he is buying used underware for this site. I read some of the e-mails and he tells them he can't wait to get them and be able to ware them. They are not sent to the house and I can't find any in hear. So I don't know where they are or where they get sent. He will never admit that he has a problum with this. I would like to know how I can break the news to him that I know. I love him more then anything in the world, but if I can't be all for him then I don't want to be married to him. We have a son together and I don't want to hurt my son. I really need some help. I need some help on telling him that I want a devorice.
Coaches response:
Thank you for contacting MarriageRomance.com for coaching. I will try and encourage you and give you Godly advice.
I read your coaching information and know you must feel frustrated and betrayed by your husband's conduct.
I noticed that you and your husband are not Christians. Please don't divorce your husband because your husband is normal. Without Christ, people are selfish and they do selfish things like your husband has been doing. If you divorce him and remarry, the next guy may end up worse. Instead I would urge you to consider becoming a Christian and ask Christ to come into your life and forgive you for your sins and help you change your husband.
God can help you to change your husband. If your husband became saved and recognized that he is a sinner who deserves to go to hell, but that Jesus died on the cross for his sins, your husband would begin to change. If he got saved, God the Holy Spirit would begin to transform your husband and change him and give him self-control and love for you.
Without Christ men do not have much self-control. Your husband is looking for spice in his love life and he doesn't realize he already has the best - you! The grass always looks greener on the other side, but when you get there you realize you were better off back with your wife.
Maybe you should tell him you know what he is doing. But explain to him that he needs to get saved and ask Jesus to forgive him for his sins, and that he needs to ask Jesus to give him self-control. If you and he will begin going to a Bible church that teaches the Bible, God can save your marriage as well as give you life eternal and peace here on earth.
Please write back with your thoughts. I'd love to hear from you.
Have your told your husband yet, that you know what he did?
God Bless,
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