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Coaching Log 2/13/2006
Marital Status: Married
Gender: Female
Your Age: 20
Age Of Your Spouse: 27
Would you like to learn how to become a Christian? I am a Christian
Is your spouse a Christian? Yes
How many times a month do you go to church?
How many years have you been married? 2.5.
Do you have children? Yes.
How many children living at home? 2.
Is your spouse unfair to you? Yes.
Are you unfair to your spouse? No.
Does your spouse think you are unfair to them? Yes.
Do you feel angry with your spouse? Yes
Do you feel your spouse is angry with you? Yes
What percent of your time together with your spouse is spent arguing?
70 percent
Do you like being married? Yes
Do you wish you were single again? No
Do you want to stay married? Yes
Would you ever divorce your spouse? No
Would your spouse ever divorce you? I Don't Know
MarriageRomance.com may publish all or parts of this coaching session: Yes
Please describe your situation and problem:
I dont really know what the problem is. My husband and I have been married
for about 2 and a half years. In the beginning things were great but they
have slowly went downhill from there. I do nag at him alot but I find
myself not being able to stand him sometimes. We live at his grandparents
house and I hate it there. I feel that he is controlling about to many
things and that is why I nag all the time. We are only getting worse. I
feel that he doesnt care about my feelings because I havent seen my mom and
sister in about 8months and we live with his family and when I want and long
to see them its always we cant. I have left (not left him) but just left
without his permission just so I could see them and feel like a woman. I
will stop here for now cause I dont know if anyone can help us. oh also
when I have something to say back to his comment he says that I am getting
the last word and then he gets extremely upset when I try to say something
again. I dont think that the last word thing is actually something that exists I believe that I should be able to talk just as well as him......HELP US!
Coaches Response:
Thank you for contacting MarriageRomance.com for coaching. I'll try and
encourage you and give you Godly advice.
I have read your description of your situation and sympathize with you.
The Bible tells a man to leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife
when they get married. The biggest part of the problem in your marriage is
that you all live with his grandparents.
Why are you all living with his grandparents? Is there any way you all
could have your own place to live - either renting or buying a home?
All marriage counselors I believe would agree that it is very difficult on a
relationship to live with in-laws.
You are right on all accounts. Your husband should listen to you. Your
husband should care about your family and want to help you see them.
You and your husband have lost some of your feelings of love for each other,
but you still love each other because you both want to try and work things
out.
See if your husband will go and counsel with you with the Pastor. The
Pastor would be able to help him see how he is being unfair to you.
Please write back if you would like to dialog more.
I pray God will change your husband and help him see things through your
eyes and I pray God will give you wisdom and love for your husband.
God bless
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