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Should Husband Help Wife With Young Children?
Question:
I'm submitting this question for a friend. She has two young children under the age of 3. She is a stay-at-home mom. She feels overwhelmed with taking care of the kids and doing all the chores at home.
She feels very frustrated with her husband because he does not help enough with the kids.
Should she expect her husband to help with the kids? He works a full time job and comes home tired often.
Answer:
In a marriage the stronger person should always help the weaker person. Love motivates us to help our spouse. We should want to give 110 percent to our spouse. If our spouse is hurting we hurt. If our spouse is overwhelmed we should feel their pain and help them.
A young wife looks forward to raising her young babies. But she is in for more work than she can handle. She needs her husband's help. She is going through the most difficult time in her life. Never again will life be so demanding as it is when she has a 4 month old and a 3 year old and she is doing all the chores around the house and loving and caring for them.
The husband should understand that this is the time for him to show his wife how much he loves her. This is the time to give up his love for sports, his love for TV, his love for anything and everything, to the extent that it interferes with his ability to minister to the needs of his wife and young children. He should be putting his wife first and helping her with all his energy.
When he does this, his wife will feel loved. His wife will feel relieved. Her disposition and her outlook on life will change 180 degrees. Instead of feeling alone in the world, like she is having to raise these kids on her own with only financial help from her husband, instead, she will feel like her husband loves her, like he appreciates her, and she will respond to him with love and ... yes, a desire for intimacy.
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