My wife has never loved me

I have learned earlier this week that my wife has never been 'in love' with me.  We have had issues in our marriage for the past 6 months that I was aware of, but I was optimistic we could work through these things.  I haven't been the husband she needed me to be, and she never was able to fall in love with me.

Last week, she showed her affection for another man, and it has ripped my heart out.  We are going to get counseling, but she does not want to remain married to me.

I love her so much it hurts, and while I'm in pain, I still want to work through this so that we can spend the rest of our lives together.

God, I pray you can hear me.  Please help us find our way through this, and if we are meant to be together, please give her heart the ability to love me and to be in love with me.

God if you only answer one more prayer in my life, please let it be this one.

Comments From Readers ...

A reader says ... I pray God will change her heart and you will have wisdom to know how to deal with it.  That would be the worse thing that could happen - if my wife wanted to leave me.  But remember your wife may be speaking from her emotions.  She may not feel she is in love with you and she may not feel now that she ever was in love with you.  But actually love is earned.  So you can make her fall in love with you by being a loving husband and reaching out to her in love and not in anger and not criticizing her.  You want to show your wife you love her but that you are able to give her space if she needs it and you will continue serving God and serving her and being a loving husband.  Dr. Dobsons book "love Must Be Tough" might be a good book for you to read.  Also if you would read "His Needs Her Needs" with your wife and both comment on it as you read it, this would help your marriage.  And if you would ask your wife what things you could change to help her love you more and then work on those things - this could help.   I've prayed for you and her and I'll try and remember to pray daily for you all.  God Bless.