Edifying Feminine Beauty, Pornography and Feminograpy

Expedient and Inspiring Feminine Beauty and Display
Pornography and Feminography
Introduction

The writer in times past was very restrictive about carefully prepared feminine beauty and display.  I was of the mind that such beauty should be vain to the good man, although I still very much seemed to like it.  I in no way would allow myself to look upon photos of feminine exposures, and even with regards to my own wife I at one time, could not allow myself to put much emphasis into her beauty.  Yet I was starved for the feminine beauty which I was denied of.  I could not even allow myself to fully look upon photos of cute little girls that were well clothed, as their special beauty did sort of thrill me, and that sort of scared me.  I turned over photos of beautiful women even if well dressed and sometimes put wide tape over others, because they attracted me.  I was at war with God's creation of feminine beauty, and which my heart greatly desired to look upon, but I thought was vain and evil and I dared not appreciate or enjoy.  In my religious society I had sort of gathered and supposed that feminine beauty and display although being very alluring and compelling to behold, is progressive, addictive and deadly.  I was accustomed to a lifestyle where woman's hair rather than being dealt with in a way as to create beauty, largely was dealt with as to prevent beauty. 1
It was by the process of God's special leading involving studying the Bible, dreams, and divine occurrences, that I learned that man does not need to be at war with feminine beauty as I was, but rather feminine beauty is something God created to inspire and bless man and is something for man to enjoy, although obviously with discretion and self control.   2
Feminine beauty can greatly inspire the husband to love his wife.  The writer even in his days of diligently avoiding carefully prepared feminine display, at times was still quite affected by it.  In our society, seeing vivid feminine display sometimes simply cannot be avoided.  I well remember particular times when I simply had to face up to and see beautiful feminine exposure, because it could not be avoided, and how passionately I loved my wife afterwards.  I now remember how my wife in being loved with unusual passion at times would say, "what did you see today"?  Although seeing spectacular feminine beauty clearly made me very affectionate to my wife, yet feminine beauty and display still was supposed to be vain and evil and I simply did not question that.  Yet in due time God did bring me to study and question what feminine beauty and exposure is all about, and whether it is really evil as I thought.  This article considers various subjects about feminine beauty and exposure as are given in the following index;   3

INDEX

What is looking with lust? 4-5
Is beauty vain? 6-8
Feminine beauty and display as in Biblical
     history 10-18
Sad anti woman and beauty attitude of early
     centuries 19-21
Clothing, modesty, and nakedness as in old
     Jewish times 22-29
Feminine photos 30-42
God's good laws, etc   43-46

What is Looking With Lust?
Jesus clearly taught that we should not and dare not look upon another woman to lust after her, and said if we do so, we have already committed adultery with her in our hearts (Matt 5:28).  Men obviously should not look upon another man's wife in the unwholesome way of coveting her and nurturing a desire and readiness to somehow get her.  Although such looking and lusting obviously is not proper, yet one still very much can look upon a cute little girl or any woman and appreciate the natural beauty that God has given to her, without in anyway looking upon her in the way of coveting her and hoping to somehow get her.  Their obviously is a vivid difference in looking upon a woman to simply admire the natural beauty that God has given to her and without having any thought or intent of trying to get her, as compared to looking upon her with a lust that includes a passionate desire and readiness to take her if she could be seduced.  This aspect will become more clear in reading the rest of this article.  God wants strong and permanent unions between man and woman, both for the sake of the children, and the partners within that union.  God does not want men to be looking at another woman as to allure or win her and thus disrupt another's marriage union!  All of God's laws, including His sexual laws are good laws and are for our good.   4
Apostle John said  "Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. {16} For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world." (1 John 2:15-16).  Although the writer in times past quickly and mostly related these verses to man's sexual desires, yet John here was not saying that man's natural desire for sexual sights and feelings is not of the Father but of the world, because God in the very beginning created sexual attraction between man and woman while declaring they shall be one flesh and said it was very good (Gen 1:26-31 & 2:18-24).  Numerous Scriptures portray marriage and sex as a good thing which God created,  (2 Sam 12:8, Proverbs 5:18-19 & 18:22, Eccl 9:9, Song 4:1-11, 7:1-10,  1 Cor 7:2-5 & 12:23-24, Heb 13:4).  Yet it is very true that John's Scripture about the lust of the flesh and eyes could pertain to erroneous sexual desires, such as coveting another's companion and looking upon her in the lustful way of trying to win her.  Lusts that are not of the Father but of the world very much could also pertain to unnatural and perverted sexual desires, such as desiring to see or participate in violent or homo or lesbian sexual activities. 5

Is Beauty Vain?
Clearly a woman without good character, can be a very distasteful companion, even if very beautiful.  Thus it is quite understandable why Solomon in emphasizing the importance of feminine virtue, spoke of beauty being vain.  Yet beauty is not altogether vain.  Although King Solomon spoke of beauty being vain, he also said that the virtuous wife clothes herself very beautifully as in silk and purple (Pro 31:22).  Yes, the virtuous wife will care about her appearance.  Many Scriptures speak about feminine beauty which clearly reveals feminine beauty was noticed in Bible times (Gen 12:11&14, 24:16, 26:7, 29:17, Deu 21:10-13, 1 Sam 25:3, 2 Sam 11:2 & 13:1 & 14:27, 1 Kin 1:3-4, Est 2:7, Job 42:15, Psa 45:9-11, Song of Solomon throughout).  To speak bluntly if feminine beauty was totally vain, one should have no care at all about how his wife looks.  His wife could have a very hairy chin, teeth sticking straight out, be tremendously overweight and barely look like a woman and it simply should make her husband no difference.  If beauty were wholly vain, beauty absolutely should have no bearing upon whom the young man will fall in love with, and the young man should just as readily fall in love with a woman that is as ugly as just described, as a woman who is very beautiful.   6
It is true that both Apostle Paul and Peter reproved putting too much emphasis and expense on woman's outward adornment involving jewelry, apparel, and hairstyle and rather encouraged women to focus on having the inward beauty of good character.  Yet such does not need to mean that woman's outward beauty is meaningless.  One dare not overlook the fact that immediately after Apostle Peter emphasized the inner beauty of women, he then lifted up Holy women of the Bible as examples for Christian women to follow, which Holy women were very beautiful and were not careless with their outward appearance and even wore some jewelry.  They were so beautiful that kings desired them for wives (Gen 12:11-15, 20:2-13, Gen 26:7-10).  One should also consider that a woman's good personality, involving a humble spirit and attractive smile is a very important part of her visible beauty, and often makes her more beautiful than what she wears.  Clearly attractive feminine appearance is a blessing from God and is far from being vain.   7
Spectacular feminine displays and exposures are a very real thing, and have a powerful impact upon men, although too many have erroneously tried to ignore it, diminish it, and deny it.  The way men react to feminine displays and the comments they make about them, often reveal how powerfully special feminine exposures affect men.  The power of feminine beauty neither can simply be judged as a vain power, as it can very wondrously and properly inspire the husband to love His wife, and as God wondrously designed.  The object of this article is to learn what place feminine beauty actually can and should have in our lives, and to learn how to properly deal with it, so that it can provide the wondrous blessing that God intended, rather than being a difficulty and a pain to us. 8

Feminine Beauty and
Display as in Biblical and Jewish History
Note the writer by including the below, does not mean to advocate that Christians today should do just like these old time Jews did, but is giving the following to reveal how feminine beauty and display was not despised in old Jewish history and even sometimes was quite publicly exposed.    
Feminine beauty and display was very important in old times, such as in the time of Queen Esther.  Queen Vashi, who was a Queen before Esther, was rejected from being queen because she refused to come forth to show her beauty to the guests at the King's great feast.  Some histories state Vashi was to come forth without any veiling at all of her physical beauty.  Men at this time, felt Vashi's refusal to come forth and show her beauty was very serious, and were afraid other women would now start to refuse their husbands' requests and desires as did Vashi if no penalty was applied to Vashi for her refusal (Esther 1:11-19).  Thus they decided to remove Vashi from being queen.  Queen Esther whom most Christians greatly honor was then chosen as a beauty queen to replace Vashi.   10
Concerning Queen Esther, what would she after becoming queen have done if King Ahasuerus now called her forth as he did Vashi, to show the people her physical beauty?  If the Jews were strongly opposed to feminine beauty and revealing it at particular times, why did Queen Esther even cooperate with becoming queen in this type of a situation?  Yet, Esther and her step father Mordecai very much cooperated with those in charge of seeking a new queen.  Mordecai even had Esther keep it a secret that she was of the Jewish captives, and likely because that status might have been against her in becoming queen (Est 2:10).  Note, if Esther and Mordecai would have been opposed to her becoming queen, Esther could have cunningly made herself less attractive in both appearance and character and quite obviously could have avoided being chosen as Queen, and without getting into trouble for any misconduct.  This fact largely proves that Esther and Mordecai were not resisting her becoming queen.  The Bible speaking of Esther says, she pleased Hegai, the official in charge of finding a new Queen, and says he then in kindness to her speedily gave her things for purification, and such things as belonged to her, and even gave her the best place in the house of the women (Esther 2:8-9)!  One should consider the good and special relation Esther had with Hegai (the keeper of the women) and consider that he in his special kindness helped her become queen.  This all very much indicates that Esther and Mordecai nicely cooperated with Esther becoming queen rather than resisting it.  Mordecai was so interested in how Esther was doing during her months of preparation before becoming queen that he "walked every day before the court of the women's house, to know how Esther did, and what should become of her." (Esther 2:11).  Many Christian men today likely can hardly imagine walking by a place so focused on women and feminine beauty, and where feminine beauty might have been quite visible all around.  Note, Esther had to spend a whole year in preparation, in becoming very attractive for the King!  Can our wives imagine that?  Some wives might not want to even spend a minute putting on nice lingerie to make themselves attractive to their husbands in the bedroom, and think it to all be vain.  Concerning some religions, their women's appearance consists of a blend of intentionally destroying their natural beauty while yet still trying hard to be beautiful.  How sad. 11
Emphasis upon women and feminine beauty as in Queen Esther's time was not so strange to God's people of old times.  In old times many Jewish Kings had numerous wives, and their beauty obviously was meaningful to them.  These Kings obviously took additional wives because they desired to do so, not because they had to.  The Bible speaking of King Rehoboam says he desired many wives (2 Chronicles 11:23).  King David, who was a man after God's own heart, had numerous wives and concubines which God had given him.  2 Samuel 12:8 concerning such reads "And I gave thee thy master's house, and thy master's wives into thy bosom... and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things".  Although King David very likely did not have a woman program as massive as did King Ahasuerus (who toke Esther as Queen), yet David would have needed some intelligent program to care for all his wives and to make them pleasing and a blessing to himself.  When King David was old and feeble, the Jews even sought throughout the whole land of Israel for the most beautiful daughter to bring to King David to lie in his bosom to help revive him (1 King 1:1-4).  One should consider that Esther and Mordecai having all this in their Jewish background would not have thought it evil or strange for King Ahasuerus to be seeking a beautiful Queen.  Second Samuel 1:24 speaking of feminine beauty in King Saul's time reads,  "Ye daughters of Israel, weep over Saul, who clothed you in scarlet, with other delights, who put on ornaments of gold upon your apparel."  Note this Scripture is a lamentation for King Saul after his death.&nbs