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The little things that matter
I have found recently that in my marriage, which is fairly new by marriage standards (7 mo.), that sometimes it's the little things that each one of you does that makes all the difference. My wife and I have been together for over four years, but have recently gotten married. Since the time from our wedding, things have been somewhat difficult. You see, she and I both still attend college. We knew when we began this marriage that it wasn't always going to be easy. Right now we spend a lot of time apart, as our classes are varied and we both commute to different colleges. As a result, things around the house get messy quickly. I've found that when either one of us has had an excessively long day, it is frustrating to come home to a house in disarray. Something my wife and I have started doing is trying to better compensate for each other by just taking care of the little things everyday so they don't build up. Instead of cleaning house once a week, we rotate a few items of cleaning everyday and split them up. We even split the cooking. Because of these small things, plus going above and beyond what a "typical" husband would do, it has greatly improved both of our attitudes and our level of frustration. It has also improved our relationship by keeping it mostly stress free in this difficult time. Sometimes it is just the little things taken care of everyday that mean the most. I would suggest it especially for families that are extemely busy with multiple schedules.
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