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overcoming sour attitudes
Today my husband and I do not argue.
We just absolutely refuse to. I love him too much to argue with him about anything, and he loves me too much too. When we feel ourselves start to get irritated, we ask what the real issue is. Am I getting angry because he is going somewhere, or am I really just hurt because he has not taken the time to kiss my face that afternoon and tell me he loves me? Am I angry because he has not helped the kids with this or that, or am I really frustrated and spiritually worn down because I have not read my bible and prayed that day? Usually I find the answer that way. But if I don't, or if he doesn't, we just compromise. Because nothing that either of us want (whether we go to the park or the bowling alley on Saturday with the kids) is important enough to cause friction, hurt each other's feelings, and ruin the whole day. We just love each other and our kids too much and care about one another's feelings too much to hurt each other over something so insignificant..
That's why we don't argue anymore.
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