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Eliminate the Routine for Greater Passion
One vital theme in making your love grow is the importance of creative, passionate and constant emotional and physical affection leading to eventual intense and mutually satisfying sexual fulfillment in marriage. I consider this a key and indispensable pleasure in a happy and healthy marriage. Every day, and when in each other's presence, the lovingly, constant touching, holding each other, prolonged French kissing while indulging in heavy petting near the point of orgasm, but not allowing each other to orgasm to build a growing and intense sexual tension --these represent the absolute culmination of romance. This continual physical and emotional affection may or may not lead to complete sexual fulfillment, and hopefully not every day to build a more powerful sexual tension through days prior to when you as a couple mutually decide when the time is right for you. Many books and articles have emphasized this point.
It is important, however, to stay connected by talking, listening while having a physical connection through touching and hugging. Talking every day, even if for only ten or fifteen minutes, helps keep resentments and misunderstandings from building up. Active listening promotes trust and closeness. And touching—building from innocent backrubs to mutually masturbating, oral sex and even allowing sexual intercourse, but not to the point of orgasm except once or twice each week at the most--morning and night may ultimately make us feel more sexy, more valued and more in control of our sexuality. And then after a few days or hours and when the sexual tension is at its peak, both are ready for the overpowering sexual release of increasingly powerful orgasms and even multi-orgasms if you're healthy enough - when they finally come. By allowing this sexual tension to build, until a mutually agreed upon time or times each week depending upon your sexual needs, is very powerful in marriage. I find that couples can build not only their sexual tension to increasing peaks, but find that their love for each other and caring for becoming the perfect lover to each other, a most rewarding result of their relationship together.
Unfortunately, many couples experience 'skin hunger.' They stop touching...They may be sexual with each other, but I'm talking about nonsexual touching, such as hugging, stroking, and caressing...Touch is one of the most important human needs there is. Without it, infants die. So do relationships. Keep yours alive and special by making sure you touch, hug and kiss each other passionately every day and be creative to eliminate the routine.
Sexual teasing antics represent a powerful and rewarding theme to increase your love and passion. Sexual teasing might not be for everyone, but for my wife and myself, it has been wonderfully exciting and gotten us out of the normal ruts of marriage. Humor, especially arousing, sexual humor is critical in keeping our thoughts focused on a healthy and exciting marriage. Sharing sexy jokes and romantic stories and making each other laugh brings great fun into our relationship. My wife and I love finding new jokes and stories to share with each other every day and we both find it both adorably cute and sexually exciting. It also provides the side benefit of keeping each other in “the mood” to allow greater physical intimacy as well. Through graphically explicit sexual language we enjoy teasing each other as well to intensify the sexual tension and keep our juices flowing. Particularly when we are apart and speaking over the phone or through our emails, our comments keep us connected and thinking of each other and how much we love each other.
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