Title: "What should I do?" Author: Unknown
My husband spanked me the other day. He always tells me how nosey I am and last week I told his sister to make a certain "career move"...well let's just say it wasn't the best advice and it did NOT have a good outcome...well, my husband had already told me I should stay out of it, so he was mad when he found out.
He took my arm and slapped my rear a few times. It hurt and I cried...but then when he apologized I forgave him. Should I have? I later told him I didn't appreciate him spanking me and he said, "Well, maybe you should have stayed out of it." We've been married for eight years and he's never done this before. I don't know if he'll do it again. I love him a lot and we really do have a very good marriage.
He's always respectful and I don't think he sees spanking me as wronghe was just sorry that he had to do itand not sorry that he did it like he said. I guess I just need some advice on what to do. I thought about threatening him with a divorce if he did it again, but the thought of divorce makes me cringe. I would hate to do that because I love him so much.
We have two children and we're all so happy. And to be honest, and I know this sounds bad, but I didn't mind being spanked. I mean, there was no sexual pleasure in it or anything, but it didn't hurt that much and it was over really quick. It took the place of a long, drawn out, never ending and pointless argument that we would have had if he hadn't done it.
I guess what I'm trying to say isI'm pretty sure that this isn't normal. But is it wrong? If so, how wrong is it? Wrong enough for a divorce? Even though I don't think it was a big deal? Where do I go from here?
Yes it is not normal. Your husband should not spank you. The Bible does not teach that the husband and wife should punish each other. The marriage relationship is one of love not of parent/child.
I'm not an expert, but my opinion is that if you don't want him to do it he shouldn't. You are not his child, you are his wife. He should treat you with respect. Husbands do not normally spank a wife, unless the wife asks the husband to do so.
It sounds like he did not mean harm to you, he may have been confused about his role. But now that he knows he's not supposed to spank you, he probably won't do that again.
But it is certainly not something worth breaking up your marriage over especially if he only did it once, and you say you don't think it's a big deal. I would just forgive him, and later in life, you may both think back about how he spanked you and chuckle about it.
It sounds like you took it well and are willing to forgive him and that is good. It sounds like you will not hold it against him too. Good analysis and God Bless your marriage. J