Title: "caught in between to opinions" Author: Unknown
I need help making a Godly decision my husband and I has been arguing over money because he wants me to give him my check for the bills I refused at first because I really didnt trust him because he spends his money on bills and whatever he likes then he got very upset to the point that he doesnt want the marriage anymore I decided that I love him and want to continue our marriage and that Im willing to do whatever it takes for us to be together he refuse to agree now hes staying out late and now we really dont communicate much what should I do.
Im not an expert so maybe one of our subscribers can give you advice. From my experience in a Christian home the husband and wife put their money together into one account and pay expenses from that account.
Your husband shouldnt spend his money on what he wants and then expect you to pay the household expenses. Instead you both should put your money together and pay the expenses out of the combined money.
What if you suggest to your husband that you put your money together and pay expenses and buy things from the combined money? And what if you both agree to not buy anything without both agreeing to buy it?
Once your money is put together in the same bank account, you both can agree on a budget. Like maybe you both agree that you will be the groceries and you will not spend more than $200 per week. And you both can agree that each week you can each take $50 to buy something for yourself. These are just examples. But if you both sit down and figure out how much money you make together, and then figure out a budget on where you both will spend the money. Once you have a budget you can see where the money is going and so you can see how much extra money there is for each of you to spend on things for yourself.
Each of you should agree to not spend any money on yourself unless it is budgeted. Then you will always be able to pay your bills and neither one of you will be surprising each other by spending money you dont have.
I pray you will set up a budget. First figure out how much money you each make each week or each month. Then you figure out how much money you need to spend on the rent and electricity and food and gas and fixing the car and other expenses each week or each month. Then once you have listed all your income and listed all your expenses for the month, then you can see if there is any money left over to spend on personal things. If there is any money left over you can split it between you.
There are some good Christian budget sites like: www.soundmindinvesting.com.
I pray you will both get together and work things out. God bless