Title: "The Benefits of Loving Sex" Author: Unknown
Why is it important for us to have a truly loving marriage particularly a marriage filled with frequent, mutually satisfying and joyous, loving sex? There are many reasons.
The most obvious reason is that frequent sex is emotionally and physically healthy. When married couples experience loving affection, prolonged foreplay with exciting and pleasurable kisses, hugs and petting and gifting each other frequent orgasms it is also a fact that this loving pleasuring not only helps them meet each other's needs that they have for building greater bonds of love, but it also increases their health as well. If you want to learn more about this, simply Google benefits of sex. Here is a summary of what you will find. It was really exciting for my wife and I to study this together on the Internet. You will find much detail on the benefits of sex which relieves stress, lowers blood pressure, boosts immunity, burns calories, improves cardiovascular and heart health, boosts self-esteem, improves intimacy, reduces pain, reduces prostate cancer risk, helps you sleep better, and increases weight loss and overall fitness.
Concerning the production of the love hormone Oxytocin: Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels. "Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond," Britton says. Since the release of Oxytocin can be classically conditioned, after repeatedly having sex with the same partner, just seeing, dreaming or fantasizing about that partner releases more oxytocin, making you want to be with that person all the more, and you bond. It is based on a powerful internal feeling. It actually produces the continual feelings of being in love, which is so critical to increasing happiness and bonding in marriage. As the hormone Oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher Oxytocin levels. The Oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research. And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure.
Concerning prostrate health: Frequent ejaculations, especially in older men, reduces the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s. But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by about 33 percent. Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more times a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of only four to seven monthly.
Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles: For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.
To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release. Kegel exercises (several hundred each day) for both men and women will greatly increase the intensity of muscular contractions during orgasm. During intercourse the woman's Kegel clenches will greatly increase the stimulation for both.
Less obvious reasons are more personal for us. First of all my wife and I believe that marriage will carry on through the eternities in Heaven for those who have learned through their marriage here on earth how to continually increase their love, compatibility and happiness. And particularly after we are resurrected with perfect and immortal bodies, we will be able to fulfill whatever God has in store for us with Him and Jesus Christ forever and ever in Heaven. So, learning to be happy and loving together while on earth is a prerequisite for eternal life as a married couple. Our goal in marriage is to do all that we can to build greater love, trust and faithfulness, fulfilling each other's needs and desires to help each other reach the highest spiritual, emotionally mature, intellectual and physical levels possible. The bonds of faithfulness between us as a couple is strengthened through continual and loving acts of affection including frequent gifting to each other as much as we possibly can sexual orgasmic bliss. After years of building mutually satisfying bonds of love as a couple, it is painful for us even to think of being unfaithful to each other. As we teach each other through constant loving verbal and physical communication over the years what we want and desire in order to feel loved and appreciated, thoughts of wandering or finding other means to fulfill our sexual needs are eliminated. For example, my wife knows exactly what to do to make me feel so loved continually. Her continual hugs, kisses, total submissiveness and sensual touches keep me completely in love with her. And in turn, I know exactly what I need to do to fulfill every want or need that she has emotionally and sexually and frequently ask her for what I can do to make her feel more loved and appreciated. There is absolutely nothing that we wouldn't do to please and pleasure each other.
Showing our love is further personified in serving each other. She delights in preparing the most delicious meals that look so beautiful that it's almost a crime to eat, and keeping her body so beautiful and sexy in every way. I love the way she does her nails, makeup, hair, using perfume, beautiful negligees, and imaginative and sexy mind that is so adventurous, humorous and provocative. Seeing what needs to be done around the house and then doing it without having to be asked is also critical to lighten and share her burdens. We love working together in cleaning, washing dishes, etc. and it becomes a joy because we are making our home beautiful and more conducive for the Spirit of God to dwell with us in a clean and orderly home. It is also important for us to be attractive to each other and so we exercise almost every day and maintain our health and flexibility so that we are physically capable of frequent and prolonged sexual activity sometimes for 2 or 3 hours in every imaginable position. Even if either of us is ill, which we rarely are, we use it as an opportunity for pampering and showing greater love and empathy and caring lovingly for each other's health needs.
And there is one concluding spiritual reason involving doing our part to increase our love for God as we increase our love for each other. God wants us to have a glorious marriage filled with loving service and yes, even sex! My wife and I earnestly desire that God and His glorious wife share in our happiness. We also believe that God not only sees all but He knows all our very thoughts and feelings - that God and His eternal companion share in the happiness and sorrows of all of their children. Carrying this train of thought further then doesn't it follow that when we as a couple experience great, pleasurable and loving service to each other including sex -- that our Heavenly parents know what we are feeling through that spiritual connection with us bringing them even greater joy and happiness as well and particularly if that sexual activity results in pregnancy and providing loving earthly parents to be assigned stewards over His precious spirit children?